Many of us when trying to survive a breakup in our relationship will turn to an apology, and that is a good thing providing it is done in a proper manner. It can be a bad thing if not done properly and without thought and sincerity.

In this article I would like to show you the 4 important parts of a correct and sincere apology and hope that it is of help to you when surviving a breakup…

1…Acknowledge Their Feelings… You need to place yourself in the other person’s shoes. Never ever say “I know how you feel’ because fact is you do not know how they feel… You should say instead “You must feel so____and_____.” You see instead of telling them, you are exploring their feelings.An example might be “You must feel so angry” They may come back and say “I am more than angry, I am hurt”. You have acknowledged their feelings.

2…Why… When surviving a breakup there is always the why. You have to take responsibility for the upset when making a sincere apology. Examine your own feelings and apologize for them. Here is a major example, let’s say your partner has had an affair with another person….You could say…”You must have felt so alone and unloved” or maybe “I left you alone to fend for yourself emotionally” A lot could happen at this point because your partner is hearing maybe for the first time an acknowledgment of your feelings instead of a demanding “Why”

3… Affected…When surviving a breakup with an apology it is important that they know that you are affected, not by what they may have done but what you are taking responsibility for. An example could be “I feel so guilty for being responsible for leaving you so alone” or maybe “My insecurity has caused the loss of my best friend and lover”
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4…Apologize Without Defense…This means apologize without expecting something in return if you are surviving a breakup. Example “I know there are few words I can say to make up for the loneliness I have caused, while hoping for your forgiveness I do not ask or expect it”

The 4 points I have put before you are very powerful when used in a correct manner and can really have devastating effects. Not only while surviving a breakup in a relationship but can be used when apologizing to anyone for any sort of upset…

Never underestimate the power of an apology. Millions or it could even be billions of dollars have been paid out in lawsuits that could have been saved with an effective apology.

 

   

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